Dagenham pair reveal diamond wedding secret

PUBLISHED: 12:00 14 February 2015 | UPDATED: 14:13 16 February 2015

Mary and Harry Lindsey have been married for 60 years and will be celebrating their diamond wedding anniversary

Mary and Harry Lindsey have been married for 60 years and will be celebrating their diamond wedding anniversary


The secret to a long and happy marriage is compromise and a sense of humour - needed more so for women, of course, Mary Lindsey believes.

Mary and Harry's wedding photo from 1955Mary and Harry's wedding photo from 1955

And she should know.

On Thursday the 84-year-old will celebrate her 60 year diamond wedding anniversary with husband, Harry.

The pair, who hail from Hobart Road, Dagenham, have spent a large bulk of married life in the borough.

They moved here in 1975 when the building of Rotherhithe tunnel threatened to disrupt their neighbourhood in Stepney.

Harry with daugher, Caroline in Cornwall in 2005Harry with daugher, Caroline in Cornwall in 2005

It turned out the tunnel was never built near their street but they say they’re glad they moved to Dagenham all the same.

“We were introduced by Mary’s cousin who I used to work with,” Harry, 88, told the Post.

“For our first date we went to the pictures, all I remember is that Old Mother Riley was in the film.”

They were married two years later in 1955. I was eager to ask, was it love at first sight?

Harry Lindsey with son, Graham and daughter, CarolineHarry Lindsey with son, Graham and daughter, Caroline

“No no it took a while before we knew we wanted to get married,” said Mary.

“He was frighten of my four brothers. They used to take the mickey out of one another.

“He proposed in our drafty passage in the house where I lived. He was so nervous he shook like nobody’s business.”

Harry, who was 28 when they got married, said: “My family never thought I’d do it. I’d been running away from marriage for years.

To which Mary joked: “Oh thanks, I don’t know which way to take that.

“I think he was married to his cycling actually. He used to go on lots of bike rides.”

The lovebirds held their reception spread across two rooms in Mary’s parents’ house.

They kept busy over the next six decades tending to their three children, six grandchildren and 10 great grandchildren, as well as travelling the world – from New Zealand to Canada.

They plan to celebrate with a big family meal tomorrow.

Mary said: “It doesn’t feel like 60 years ago. I think you’re 
as young as you feel. I feel about 30 and I’m 84.”

“Well I’m 88 and I feel 90,” Harry added.

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