'I can't believe this is happening to me'
PUBLISHED: 19:15 14 May 2008 | UPDATED: 09:16 11 August 2010
A MOTHER of three coping with terminal cancer needs help raising money for an electric wheel chair. Michelle O Shaughnessy, 39, of Downing Road, Dagenham, has bone and liver cancer and constantly struggles with pain and exhaustion. Once an active and inde
A MOTHER of three coping with terminal cancer needs help raising money for an electric wheel chair.
Michelle O'Shaughnessy, 39, of Downing Road, Dagenham, has bone and liver cancer and constantly struggles with pain and exhaustion.
Once an active and independent woman who loved to go out dancing with friends now Michelle must rely on others to get around.
Simple things like going to the shops have become impossible for her without the help of her mother Colleen.
Unable to get an electric chair on the NHS Michelle held a charity day at Dagenham Heathway Mall on Saturday May 3.
So far she has raised an amazing £433 through raffles but she needs more than double that to reach her goal.
A former baker, Michelle was diagnosed in February this year after an agonising four weeks in hospital.
Michelle said: "It all began last October; it was the day before my son's 18th birthday party when I felt a pain in my hip.
"I went to see my doctor who said it was a collapsed nerve and sent me home with some pain killers.
"But the pain got worse and worse. Eventually I was admitted to Queen's hospital and after what seemed like hundreds of tests they told me I was terminal.
"I had a feeling there was something wrong, they wouldn't have kept me in so long if it was nothing."
Throughout the ordeal Michelle's mum has been her rock and takes her everywhere in a manual wheelchair.
But Colleen suffers from arthritis and the strain is starting to get to her to.
Michelle explained: "My mum has been amazing, looking after the kids and taking me up to the shops.
"But the whole thing isn't fair to her, she has to push me everywhere and it's starting to tire her out.
"Mum is going to take care of the kids when I'm gone. I feel so lucky to have her and I know they will be well looked after."
Michelle has a boy and two girls, Tarren, 18, Paije, 13 and Eeden, 12, who have had to come to terms with the devastating news.
Michelle said: "I'm going to miss them so much. Sometimes I can't believe this is happening to me.
"It only seems real now and then, like when the carers from the hospice come to talk to the kids about me dying.
"They get so upset and it's all a bit overwhelming for a while but then the carer leaves and life goes on.
"I try not to think about it as much as possible; it's the only way I can cope."
Carers from St Francis hospice support Michelle and her family and are helping to send them on a dream holiday this summer.
Michelle has not decided where she wants to go yet but she would like to spend some time being pampered at a spa.
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