Idar Begaj, 51, of Ibscott Close, Dagenham is a husband and a father to three children. He gave up his 15-year career as a bricklayer to become a full-time carer. Interview with Liri Begaj.
Not being able to master the English language, I was confused and didn’t know where to turn for help.
With three teenage children, I was caring full-time for my wife, who had been diagnosed with depression.
My experience of being a first time carer was a horrible one, especially as my children were still young and at school.
They didn’t have clue of the situation I was in.
I was just so lost and didn’t know where to go. I didn’t know of any organisations that could help as I had never come across someone with mental illness before.
After four years of dealing with my wife’s illness, I realised the satisfaction I got from helping someone, especially some one I cared about.I just wanted to keep doing it, to help someone who needed my help.
I contacted Barking and Dagenham Carers, and it’s there that I was introduced to a new world of people just like myself.
I was determined to make even the little difference that I could make.
I was a voluntary bus driver for Barking and Dagenham Carers for nearly two years.
Through my volunteering I was noticed by the Barking and Dagenham Crossroads charity that provides care for carers themselves.
After three years, I am still currently employed by the organisation and I work with disabled children aged between six and 18.
I am also a caretaker at Sydney Russell School – I have to divide my working hours between the two jobs but I still manage to work Monday evenings and Saturday’s for Crossroads.
I have been a resident in Barking and Dagenham for over 12 years and have seen the community gradually change for the better.
It has become much safer and a better place to live. There are new schools, new libraries, new housing and even new leisure centres.
I am a proud resident of Barking and Dagenham and am happy to give something back in return and will keep doing so for as long as I can.
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